What i would do differently

When you have your first child, everything is so new and you don’t know what to expect. Every experience is your first. Your first positive pregnancy test, first scan, first pregnancy announcement, first time giving birth, first everything. It’s amazing and although you wouldn’t change anything about having your child, there may be some things you would do differently next time.

Here’s what I would do differently:

– I would go out more. I’ve always been a bit of a home body and always preferred staying in over going out. After having Kory, I just felt overwhelmed and didn’t want to leave the house but I think when you have a child, you have to make yourself go out, it wasn’t healthy for me and Kory to both stay couped up all the time and there’s nothing I enjoy more now than taking him out to different places and on days out, I only wish I had done it sooner.

– Say NO to visitors. Kory was premature and as a result of this, spent the first 2 weeks of his life in the hospital. When the time came to bring him home, I just wanted to be able to enjoy him with my partner as Rory was due to go back to work the next day. I thought people would understand this but obviously not. It was nice that people wanted to come and visit Kory but I would have liked to have been able to enjoy him myself first as I hadn’t really been able to in the hospital. The nurses did the night feeds as I had been discharged from the hospital, the nurses knew how to wind him and how to comfort him, I felt like they knew my child better than I did and this was my chance to get to know him. The whole experience was horrible and I feel like it was ruined for us, I just wanted to cry the entire time whenever someone came round and scream ‘give me back my child!’

– Speak up and trust my instinct! When it’s your first child, people think it’s acceptable to throw all sorts of advice at you (helpful and unhelpful), criticise what you’re doing and try to overtake. With it being my first baby and me doubting myself, I let people tell me what to do, or listened to people tell me about my own child, even if I didn’t agree with what they were saying. The next time I disagree with a nurses opinion, I will be sure to speak up, the next time someone offers me advice, I will take what’s helpful to me and ignore the rest, the next time someone tries to overtake, they will be put back in their place, help will be accepted when and if it’s wanted.

– Pick a better pram. I rushed into making the decision of which pram to get, I chose my pram simply because I liked the look of it. Kory was only in it for 6 months, he’d outgrown it and preferred to be sat up in a buggy. Next time I’ll be sure to look in more detail and compare.

Is there anything you wish you had done differently or would do differently next time round?

Hope all the dads out there had a great Father’s Day!

On Sunday it was Rory’s first Father’s Day. Up until having a child of our own, I hadn’t really had a reason to celebrate Father’s Day before so I wanted to make this Father’s Day a special one. Not only this but Rory is an amazing dad to Kory and he deserved to enjoy his day. The weather was gorgeous here so we spent the day in the garden and I made us a lovely tea. 

For Father’s Day I made Rory this Star Wars lego frame.

I hope you all enjoyed your weekend! How did you celebrate Father’s Day?

Did you know it is Disneyland Paris’ 25th anniversary this year?

Me and Rory, my partner, have been fortunate enough to visit Disneyland Paris, we went around 3 years ago. Before Kory was born. It truly is a magical place no matter what your age. The highlight of our trip to Disney for me was the Disney Dreams firework display that takes place every night at park closing. It is out of this world and it is a memory I will treasure forever.

I would love to have the experience of going back but taking Kory with us this time. I can only imagine how much more special Disneyland Paris must be through the eyes of a child.
365 tickets have some amazing deals on tickets for Disney and work closely with them. We’re definitely going to look into getting tickets and taking Kory when he is a bit older.


Take me back!!

Has my son bonded with me?

You often hear about how mothers sometimes find it hard to bond with their babies at first or maybe even for a while (for those mothers out there that are struggling, believe it or not, it’s natural, you’re most definitely not alone and it certainly doesn’t make you a bad mum. You aren’t always going to instantly bond with a child you’ve just laid your eyes on. Even if they are your own. Sometimes it takes a while, there is always help if you need/want it.)

But this isn’t the case here.

I have no doubt in my mind whatsoever that I’ve bonded with Kory. I love him so much, I know exactly what he wants and needs and when he wants and needs it, I know what he likes and dislikes, we spend all day every day together, he’s my best friend.

But has my son bonded with me?

I’m sure he loves me but I sometimes question whether he’s actually built a relationship with me. He will quite happily go to anyone (strangers included!) he has no problems with me leaving him (whether that be leaving the room or leaving him for the day) sometimes I just wanna cuddle and kiss him but he squirms to get away!

I wasn’t prepared for this, I thought this sorta stuff starts when they become teenagers?!

I’ve been feeling like this for a while now and everyone is quick to assure me that Kory has in fact bonded with me but I don’t feel like he has.

As his mum, I feel replaceable.

My son is not ‘hard work.’ I think the word you’re looking for is adventurous

Anyone who has spent time around Kory will know that he never keeps still, he constantly wants to be on the move, he will not just sit and watch tv, he hates to be held and generally just gets bored rather quickly.

This is often when people feel the need to comment. ‘How do you cope?’ ‘I bet you can’t wait for bedtime!’ ‘I bet you never get a minute’ or my favourite ‘oh he’s hard work!’

Listen up, my son may not be aware of what you say when you talk about him to me but as he gets older he will and I don’t appreciate him hearing how he’s ‘hard work’. He isn’t some sort of burden, he’s my son and yes some days I may feel totally exhausted and crave just five minutes to myself but he is growing into an adventurous little boy who wants to explore his surroundings and see new things, it’s probably not going to get any easier for me as he gets older either but I sure as hell would rather him be playing with different toys and learning about the world than to quite happily just plonk himself in front of the tv.

And whilst we’re on the topic, if anyone is going to comment on how Kory is ‘hard work’ it should be me, his mum, you know the one who looks after him and takes care of his every need day in and day out, the one who goes to bed at the end of every day exhausted. Not some bystander who is quick to pass judgement.

Despite being premature and the health visitors warning me that Kory’s development may be behind, he has always been forward. He’s astounded me with how well he has come on since being born. He crawls, he’s almost walking and he isn’t even 10 months old, he can feed and give himself a drink, he can’t say mama or dada but he can say hiya and Harley (the dog) and bobbins (the cat)

I’m proud of him.

He’s happy, he’s healthy and he’s so pleasant. That’s what’s important.

Keep exploring, you adventurous one.

Southport Food and Drink Festival

On Sunday we attended the Southport Food and Drink Festival. My partner is a huge foodie and the weather was lovely so we thought, why not make a day of it?

If you love food then the Southport Food and Drink Festival is perfect!

The festival usually takes place once a year over the first weekend in June, entry is free and it is set in the beautiful Victoria Park so that when you’ve chosen from the 100 different food and drink stalls, you can sit on the grass, relax and enjoy the atmosphere. There’s also craft stalls, local bands playing and even a puppet show to entertain the kids.

There is something for everyone to enjoy at the Southport Food and Drink festival.

If you aren’t local to Southport, I recommend visiting a food and drink festival near you, it makes for a great day out, even if you aren’t a foodie but let’s be honest… Who isn’t crazy about food and who doesn’t love tasting foods from all different cultures, from all around the world?!

I mean just look at these churros…

Here’s some more pictures from our day:

Kory enjoying the sunshine.



Woman after my own heart…

Did someone say crepes?!

Kid’s crafts corner.

Here is the link to the official visit Southport website which can provide you with more information about the Southport Food and Drink Festival:


P.S. Sorry for the lack of pictures! We were too busy eating everything!

I miss having a newborn

Kory is almost 10 months old, he’s going to be 1 soon which means I won’t have a baby anymore, I’ll have a toddler. I don’t know where the time has gone, I keep finding myself looking at pictures of him from when he was first born and I miss that. Although i’m loving every minute of watching him learn every day and grow into the little person he is becoming, I just miss everything about having a ‘baby’.

I miss the baby smell, having them sleep on my chest, I even miss being pregnant, carrying a bump, the unconditional love, I love Kory so much my heart feels like it could burst and I know if I ever had another baby, I would love them just as much.

I. Am. SO. broody.

My partner thinks I’m crazy and maybe I am but I just can’t seem to switch off. Everywhere I go I see pregnant ladies or if they’re not pregnant then they’re carrying their sweet newborns. I just can’t stop thinking about it.

Maybe we won’t have a baby this year or even next year but I know that I will never lose that feeling of wanting and loving a baby, babies are just such beautiful blessings.

Is it just me that thinks this was really unnecessary?

Let me start by telling you that I have an Instagram account that I use to promote my blog and engage with other mum bloggers. It’s actually a really nice community, this is the first form of negativity I have come across. So, this lady has took the time to message me, just to tell me that I have followed and unfollowed her a few times which I may have done. I wouldn’t have done it intentionally, if I’ve unfollowed her and then followed her again, it’s probably because I didn’t know I’d already followed her in the first place! In fact, here’s the screenshots, see for yourself…

No reply.

I’ve had a really shitty day today and to top it off, I had the pleasure of receiving this.

So what do you think? Was that really unnecessary or should I be more careful who I follow and unfollow in the future?

Conwy Pirate weekend

So this bank holiday weekend, we went to the Pirate weekend in Conwy, Wales. The event takes place over 3 days (Saturday, Sunday and Monday.) The town of Conwy was decked out with pirate flags, all the shops had decorated their windows and it was great to see that so many people, adults and children had chosen to dress up as pirates.

There was even a pirate ship that ‘fired’ cannons!

The atmosphere was brilliant. There was a band playing, food and gift stalls and lots to see and do! If you would like to find out more information on the event, head over to the website:


Here’s some more pictures from our day:

Kory and daddy.

Kory enjoying a pirate themed chocolate shortbread biscuit.

Ahoy, matey!

Daddy Pirate.

The band.

Matchstick Monkey teething toy

The Matchstick Monkey teething toy was designed by a mum just like you and I who was looking for an ideal solution for her teething daughter. The flexible teething toy makes applying teething gels and granules so much easier and gets right to the source of pain! The Matchstick Monkey teething toy is suitable for babies and toddlers from 3 months to 3 years. Matchstick Monkey is BPA free, made from FDA approved silicone and is dishwasher safe and freezer friendly.

The teething toy itself is available in a wide range of colours and can be purchased by heading to the Matchstick Monkey website http://www.matchstickmonkey.com for just £9.99.

The Matchstick Monkey has arms as handles making it easy for little hands to grasp, bumps to gently massage baby’s gums and a bendy, curly tail that works as a hook for buggies and car seats meaning you can take the Matchstick Monkey teething toy with you wherever you go!

If you would like more information, Matchstick Monkey can be found on Instagram and Twitter:



I hope you enjoyed reading my thoughts on the new and upcoming teething toy, thanks for reading and thanks to Matchstick Monkey for Kory’s blue Matchstick Monkey teething toy, his new best friend!